Roy 13-347

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Zach & Kelly O

 

Happy Spring Roy! It was a pleasure to meet you.   Happy Spring Roy! It was a pleasure to meet you. Janell

 from Brooklyn and Tegan     from Brooklyn and Tegan  

Happy Spring Sweet Roy! Keep smiling!   Happy Spring Sweet Roy! Keep smiling! Frederick

Happy Birthday, Roy!!! Wishing you a great day and a wonderful year ahead!! Love Nicole 13-351, Buster and Marsha   Happy Birthday, Roy!!! Wishing you a great day and a wonderful year ahead!!
Love Nicole 13-351, Buster and Marsha


In addition to LOVE this dog has the following requirements:
Entered Foster Care Fence Kid Friendly Another Dog Cat Friendly
12/29/2013 Physical fence required Older kids Required Yes
This is the most recent information available; however, it may change as we learn more about the dog.

Hello! Would you like to meet Roy?

Roy is a 6-year-old, neutered, 55-pound, purebred Golden with a beautiful red coat. Roy understands the words: come/here, kennel, stop, and outside. Unfortunately, our world inside a home is something foreign to him, and human touch is something he wants to avoid instead of enjoy.

Roy came from a breeding facility. There are four basic responses for a dog – Avoid, Flight, Fight, and Submit. In Roy’s case, there are only three: he will try to avoid as much as possible; if you get too close, then he will try flight; and if all else fails, he will freeze and submit. Because of this, TRUST is a very important and time-consuming concept to teach. Is it impossible? Thankfully, no!

Here is the start of Roy’s story ….

Roy began his RAGOM journey going to a loving and caring foster family. They had the difficult job of getting Roy to a vet to get him up-to-date on shots and neutered, and to a groomer because he was a mess. This upheaval from his world (even a bad one) confirmed in his mind humans were not to be trusted. As a result, Roy mentally fought any attempt made by his foster family to convince him life was going to be better. After three weeks of doing everything they could for him, they made the loving decision to move Roy to a boarding facility. So, how could a boarding facility be better? The transition from a breeding facility to a home was just too overwhelming for Roy to understand. At the boarding facility, Roy was in an environment similar to something he could relate to. While in boarding, Roy started eating and drinking on a regular basis, something he wouldn’t do in his foster home. In boarding, Roy established a routine and felt comfortable. In time, he ever learned he could trust one of the female staff. During his time in boarding, there was still the request for a foster to step up and take him home. I can’t tell you what it was about Roy, but he spoke to me, and I knew he was coming to our home.

When Roy first came to our house, I was home every day and spent many hours just talking to him. We developed an instant bond and he seemed to trust me. Of course, the fact that he was comfortable with a female at the boarding facility certainly made this much easier. Roy would follow me around the house, come when called, followed me back in the house from outside, and sat next to my feet while watching TV. WOW! I was very excited and completely amazed. I knew he was used to eating in a kennel at the boarding facility, so I needed to create a similar space for him. To keep his world consistent, I turned one of our bathrooms into his personal eating kennel. Roy will follow me into the bathroom, and when I leave, I close the door. So far, this has worked perfectly for him. Roy eats his breakfast and supper without issue as long as the door is closed and he is left alone.

Fast forward two weeks …. I went back to work. This simple change disrupted Roy’s world and caused him to digress. Roy would no longer follow me around the house or into the house from outside, come when called, or sit next to my feet while watching TV. I was so confused and felt I’d failed this precious boy. It even became necessary to keep a long leash on him at all times. Well, it’s been three weeks since I went back to work and Roy will again follow me room to room, lay next to me on his dog bed while we watch TV, allow me pet him and give him kisses, and when we’re outside, I can reach for his leash and walk him back into the house. When I leave for work, Roy will lay in his kennel. The first couple of days, I closed the kennel door. Since then, I leave the door open and there have been no problems. Roy will wait until I get home from work to go outside and potty. The other day, I came home to find a toy completely destroyed and the evidence led to Roy’s kennel. This is the first time he has shown any interest in a toy. So, I laughed and told Roy he was a very good boy! Roy’s kennel is right next to my side of the bed and the last several nights, I have heard him making lots of noise. Of course, I had to get up to see what he was doing. Roy was sitting up, pretty as can be, playing and chewing on his bone. We’ve made progress!!

Trust = to place confidence in somebody or in somebody's good qualities, especially fairness, truth, honor, or ability. For now, although I’d like to think Roy trusts me, it’s probably more tolerate than trust, but we’re working on that every day. I absolutely believe with time, love, and unlimited amounts of patience, Roy will come to trust humans.

Roy’s journey has just begun … Stay tuned for his next discovery. If you have any questions about Roy, please contact your Placement Advisor.

 

At a Glance #13-347

Golden Retriever Born: June 2007
Male 65 lbs

Status: Adopted

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Sponsored by:

Zach & Kelly O

 

Happy Spring Roy! It was a pleasure to meet you.   Happy Spring Roy! It was a pleasure to meet you. Janell

 from Brooklyn and Tegan     from Brooklyn and Tegan  

Happy Spring Sweet Roy! Keep smiling!   Happy Spring Sweet Roy! Keep smiling! Frederick

Happy Birthday, Roy!!! Wishing you a great day and a wonderful year ahead!! Love Nicole 13-351, Buster and Marsha   Happy Birthday, Roy!!! Wishing you a great day and a wonderful year ahead!!
Love Nicole 13-351, Buster and Marsha


In addition to LOVE this dog has the following requirements:
Entered Foster Care Fence Kid Friendly Another Dog Cat Friendly
12/29/2013 Physical fence required Older kids Required Yes
This is the most recent information available; however, it may change as we learn more about the dog.

Hello! Would you like to meet Roy?

Roy is a 6-year-old, neutered, 55-pound, purebred Golden with a beautiful red coat. Roy understands the words: come/here, kennel, stop, and outside. Unfortunately, our world inside a home is something foreign to him, and human touch is something he wants to avoid instead of enjoy.

Roy came from a breeding facility. There are four basic responses for a dog – Avoid, Flight, Fight, and Submit. In Roy’s case, there are only three: he will try to avoid as much as possible; if you get too close, then he will try flight; and if all else fails, he will freeze and submit. Because of this, TRUST is a very important and time-consuming concept to teach. Is it impossible? Thankfully, no!

Here is the start of Roy’s story ….

Roy began his RAGOM journey going to a loving and caring foster family. They had the difficult job of getting Roy to a vet to get him up-to-date on shots and neutered, and to a groomer because he was a mess. This upheaval from his world (even a bad one) confirmed in his mind humans were not to be trusted. As a result, Roy mentally fought any attempt made by his foster family to convince him life was going to be better. After three weeks of doing everything they could for him, they made the loving decision to move Roy to a boarding facility. So, how could a boarding facility be better? The transition from a breeding facility to a home was just too overwhelming for Roy to understand. At the boarding facility, Roy was in an environment similar to something he could relate to. While in boarding, Roy started eating and drinking on a regular basis, something he wouldn’t do in his foster home. In boarding, Roy established a routine and felt comfortable. In time, he ever learned he could trust one of the female staff. During his time in boarding, there was still the request for a foster to step up and take him home. I can’t tell you what it was about Roy, but he spoke to me, and I knew he was coming to our home.

When Roy first came to our house, I was home every day and spent many hours just talking to him. We developed an instant bond and he seemed to trust me. Of course, the fact that he was comfortable with a female at the boarding facility certainly made this much easier. Roy would follow me around the house, come when called, followed me back in the house from outside, and sat next to my feet while watching TV. WOW! I was very excited and completely amazed. I knew he was used to eating in a kennel at the boarding facility, so I needed to create a similar space for him. To keep his world consistent, I turned one of our bathrooms into his personal eating kennel. Roy will follow me into the bathroom, and when I leave, I close the door. So far, this has worked perfectly for him. Roy eats his breakfast and supper without issue as long as the door is closed and he is left alone.

Fast forward two weeks …. I went back to work. This simple change disrupted Roy’s world and caused him to digress. Roy would no longer follow me around the house or into the house from outside, come when called, or sit next to my feet while watching TV. I was so confused and felt I’d failed this precious boy. It even became necessary to keep a long leash on him at all times. Well, it’s been three weeks since I went back to work and Roy will again follow me room to room, lay next to me on his dog bed while we watch TV, allow me pet him and give him kisses, and when we’re outside, I can reach for his leash and walk him back into the house. When I leave for work, Roy will lay in his kennel. The first couple of days, I closed the kennel door. Since then, I leave the door open and there have been no problems. Roy will wait until I get home from work to go outside and potty. The other day, I came home to find a toy completely destroyed and the evidence led to Roy’s kennel. This is the first time he has shown any interest in a toy. So, I laughed and told Roy he was a very good boy! Roy’s kennel is right next to my side of the bed and the last several nights, I have heard him making lots of noise. Of course, I had to get up to see what he was doing. Roy was sitting up, pretty as can be, playing and chewing on his bone. We’ve made progress!!

Trust = to place confidence in somebody or in somebody's good qualities, especially fairness, truth, honor, or ability. For now, although I’d like to think Roy trusts me, it’s probably more tolerate than trust, but we’re working on that every day. I absolutely believe with time, love, and unlimited amounts of patience, Roy will come to trust humans.

Roy’s journey has just begun … Stay tuned for his next discovery. If you have any questions about Roy, please contact your Placement Advisor.

 

Updates

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Sweet Roy celebrated his 8th birthday on June 2nd surrounded by family. Presents included his favorite - peanut butter! Roy even tolerated wearing the "birthday candles." Everyone loved the doggie ice cream.

 

Roy joined us almost a year ago, on July 3, 2014, a scared, withdrawn guy. Since that time, he has faced countless challenges gallantly and with great courage. He has repeatedly demonstrated his indomitable spirit and determination. Importantly, he has shown us that when we suspend our expectations about what "should be," we can joyfully celebrate each of his steps along the way. We have laughed and we have cried as Roy has grown. And, over time, Roy has become an integral member of our family. So, in addition to celebrating his birthday, we are delighted to share with you that Roy has found his forever home - right here with us.

A few messages -

  1. To our RAGOM family - Thank you to everyone who has contributed to and facilitated Roy's RAGOM journey. A special thank-you to Fred who has become Roy's BFF.
  2. To everyone who has visited with Roy at Meet and Greets and/or contributed to his support - Thank you for helping to demonstrate to Roy that people are generous and kind and compassionate.
  3. To Roy - Welcome home! You are our miracle and loved beyond belief, sweet boy. I will walk with you until the end and when it is time; we will cross the Bridge together.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Most important, a big thank-you to Fred and Brooklyn and Tegan for your spring fling icons. We appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Spring brought many new and unfamiliar experiences for our sweet Roy. Some days even presented multiple challenges and on those days, Roy looked as if he felt somewhat like Job. Just one example: FM shares a fence with neighbors along one side of the lot. They replaced the fence this spring. The residents welcomed the crew of workers with unbridled joy and enthusiasm - more people to play with and a bigger yard! Not so Roy. He obviously viewed the strangers as the advance guard of Attila the Hun and went outside only with reluctance. Adding further injury, Roy had to endure a 30-foot lead until the new fence was installed and the back yard was again escape-proof. As much as possible, FM gave Roy privacy as he went about his business - but he was not a happy boy.

What else has our Roy found disconcerting this spring?

  1. We passed by someone who was energetically raking their yard a few weeks ago. Roy was so startled that he bolted and, without FM's firm grip on the double lead, would have become airborne. He just panicked, poor guy. We stopped about 50 ft. up the sidewalk and had a reassuring discussion about the non-lethal nature of rakes.
  2. We started our 4th Obedience I class. There was one difference between this session and the previous ones, however: the instructor was a man with a loud voice. Roy signaled some discomfort in the first class and an increasing level of unhappiness in the second class. So, we dropped out. We will look for other less threatening ways to continue Roy's socialization.
  3. On another of our walks, Roy started to roll his eyes and back away from the side of the road. Why? Water running in the gutter was noisily falling down a storm drain on its way to the River.
  4. With spring, the hose is hooked up and FM is using it, the watering can, wheel barrow and various garden tools. Roy has greeted the appearance of each new object with eye rolling and a hasty retreat to the other side of the yard. One night, he was reluctant to come into the house because, to do so, he had to step over the hose.

And do you know what? Roy's behavior is completely normal for an undersocialized dog. He views everything that is unfamiliar with suspicion and, depending upon the situation, varying levels of fear. Look at it from Roy's point of view. This is the first time in his life that he has seen a rake - much less one being used, a wheel barrow or a hose. He's never heard water running into a storm drain. The good news is that over time, Roy has met and conquered so many challenges like these. One of the biggest hurdles he has surmounted is attending Meet and Greets. He is now quite comfortable in a heretofore highly stressful situation. After about 1/2 an hour of looking around suspiciously, he relaxes; he watches everything intently; he smiles; and he even tolerates pats from total strangers. And that pesky hose? After 3 weeks, Roy doesn't give it a second glance!

June 2nd is going to be a big day in our house. Its Roy's 8th birthday and we will be celebrating! Send our dear birthday boy your good thoughts!

P.S. Just a few miscellaneous pictures. The first one is Roy happily sitting on the bench at the vet (ear infection). The second is at a recent Shakopee Meet and Greet with Roy's BFF Fred, Fred's nephew Captain in the foreground, resident Cubbie and Roy.

Friday, April 10, 2015

We mark the end of winter and our daily hikes at the Golf Course as the gates are now open only for members. And so we head back down the hill to resume our walks by the River. Roy is unused to the hustle and bustle (it's all relative!) that accompanies these walks: bikers, runners, skaters, etc. So our initial outings have been notable only because of Roy's vigilance - complete with eye-rolling - as we passed others along the way.

There is, however, a second reason behind Roy's discomfort on several of our recent walks by the River. Roy is currently on a 35 mg/day dosage of Fluoxetine. FM has experimented with a reduction twice in the last 4-5 months, most recently about the time we resumed our River walks. (The only way to really tell if a dosage is "necessary" is to try a small cutback and see what happens.) Roy's behavior changed noticeably at the time of both attempted cutbacks. (He is edgier and loses his tolerance for being jostled and hemmed in by the residents...which happens frequently!) Given Roy's reaction, FM concluded that his current 35 mg dosage, which is average given his weight, is optimal/advisable.

Lastly, Roy just completed and graduated from his third Obedience I class this past Wednesday. The last day of the course includes a proficiency test. Good news - Roy received another ribbon! What a guy!

 

But here's the best news. Heretofore, throughout all of our classes, when the class has executed "Sit" and "Stay," Roy remained standing and would "Stay" as long as FM took only one step away from him. Not this time! On Wednesday, FM said, "Sit," (with Roy, its always a soft gentle command) AND HE SAT! FM then said, "Stay," and walked about 3 paces away from him AND HE STAYED! What a moment for Roy - one of his first unequivocal demonstrations of trust in public. ROY DID IT!

 

FM admits to tears. I was fully prepared to never see this. Talk about so much courage, determination and a huge heart. Celebrate with me a giant step forward for this strong, sweet boy! WOOHOO FOR ROY!!!!

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Thanks so much, Janell, for the spring fling icon. You make Roy feel so special!

And a happy belated St. Patrick's Day to everyone! We celebrated! FM couldn't resist including a picture of the residents (Bear 10-277, Cubbie, and beautiful Zozo 12-108) along with several of sweet Roy. (You can tell a bit of peanut butter was a reward, can't you!)

  

Today's update is about a subject that - with most dogs - is taken for granted. But not with our Roy. It's about tail wagging!

  1. FM previously commented about Roy's morning routine of waking me up. Well, that routine was interrupted because we had a temporary foster, Abel 15-024, who slept next to FM's bed. Roy couldn't get close to FM! Once Abel moved to IA, however, Roy resumed his morning ritual enthusiastically. First, he "tests" FM - "Is it time to get up?" If "No," back to his kennel. If "Yes," color Roy happy. His head is up. He wags his tail. He welcomes hugs and pats. He gives and gets kisses. Roy is indistinguishable from the residents in his celebration of the new day.
  2. FM gathers up a leash and baggies whenever it's time to go out. (FM continues to leash Roy so that he exits through that right angle turn at the back doorway calmly and without bolting.) This action is Roy's self-initiated signal to come over to me - wagging his tail and smiling, ready to be leashed. Then out we go.

We attended the Shakopee Meet-and-Greet this past weekend. FM has noticed that, at the last several Meet-and-Greets, Roy seems to have a real Jekyll-Hyde dichotomy going on. For the first 1/2 to 3/4 of an hour, Roy is uncomfortable and nervous. He doesn't make much eye contact with people, hunches his shoulders, and his tail is firmly between his legs. By the end of the Meet, however, Roy relaxes and we see an entirely different dog, as evidenced by the pictures below: a calm self-possessed guy.


*Thanks to Carolyn and Fred for the pictures!

And so our brave Roy is continuing on his golden journey. There were few smiles and little tail wagging several months ago. But Roy's whole demeanor is changing now, ever so slowly but surely. Smiling and tail wagging are daily occurrences. He seems more content. He has moments of happiness. Kudos to Roy!

Monday, March 16, 2015

 

ove you Sweet Roy! Keep up the good work, you are truly becoming a Golden Boy!  Love you Sweet Roy! Keep up the good work, you are truly becoming a Golden Boy! - Frederick

"Your story has touched my heart and greatly inspires me. I'm rooting for you Roy! You got this!!"   "Your story has touched my heart and greatly inspires me. I'm rooting for you Roy! You got this!!"Sarah T.

Roy - Happy Valentines Day! Love, Nicole 13-351   Roy - Happy Valentines Day! Love, Nicole 13-351

Sweet, sweet Roy. Braver every day. Love from Cindy, Krae and Lilly Red  Sweet, sweet Roy. Braver every day. Love from Cindy, Krae and Lilly Red


Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Most important, a big Thank You to Cindy, Krae, and Lilly Red for your valentine. It arrived just after FM sent in the last update and so our thank-you was delayed. We greatly appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Events of this past week provide perfect examples of the progress that Roy continues to make as well as his residual - albeit shrinking - "I'm afraid of the world" view. He sure keeps FM on her toes. First, the yin. Everyone came in from their constitutional in the back yard the other morning. As always, Roy was last. He came around the side of the house, paused, looked straight at me, and headed back for another circuit around the yard. This has never happened before. By the 3rd circuit, FM is muttering, "What do you want? An engraved invitation...?" Finally, FM realized: the dryer vent, next to the back door, is spewing clouds of steam. Whoa! Scary! No way was Roy going to go through that! With the dryer paused, Roy came into the house with a "What took you so long" look. And so our world continues to turn. LOL.

And now, the yang. Thanks to everyone who stopped by to see Roy at the Shakopee Meet and Greet. He met lots of people - some for the second time - and has progressed to the point that he looks at me somewhat disdainfully when I ask him if he wants to settle down on his blanket for a bit. Fred visits with Roy at each outing, providing gentle pats and whispering nonsense to him. Roy has become very fond of Fred. In a sea of unfamiliar, Fred is a safe harbor. Sarah met and spent a lot of time with Roy and he gradually relaxed with her also. These efforts are so important as we try to demonstrate to Roy that the world is a good place and that people are kind.

 

Amid all this positive reinforcement, Roy actually began to enjoy himself, enabling Cindy G to take the loveliest picture ever of our sweet boy.

And, finally, we have added foster Abel 15-024 to the crowd on a temporary basis. Unfortunately, poor Abel came down with pneumonia and felt just lousy for several days, coughing and wheezing. Abel chose to lay down and be close with Roy during much of this time. It sure looks like Roy is offering doggy comfort and compassion to the sick guy, doesn't it. Good for Roy!

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day!! A big "Thank You" to Fred, Sarah T, and Roy's special friend, Nicole (13-351), for your thoughtfulness in sending Roy valentines. Your good wishes were the highlight of his day! Doggie ice cream came in second. A far distant third were the holiday-appropriate ears. Not much joy in Mudville about them!

Roy recently attended a birthday party at Canine Coach which must have included thirty dogs. It was a wonderful madhouse of, predominantly, Golden Retrievers and Doodles. After about half an hour, Roy adjusted to the bedlam. He stayed on the outskirts of the scrum and was joined by Nicole.

  

Thank you, Erin, for the lovely picture of Roy and Nicole. It reminded me of Grant Wood's American Gothic - missing only the pitchfork and the house in the background! Roy looks so happy and relaxed. The other highlight of the last week or so is yet another step forward: Roy came out of his kennel one morning last week, came over for some pats and love, and gave me a play bow!!! It was his first ever. Talk about happy. Everyone smiled all day!

And a special thank you to everyone who "follows" Roy and sends him your good thoughts and wishes. It makes a difference! We'll be attending some upcoming Meet and Greets soon - stop by to see this sweet boy.

Monday, February 2, 2015

Apologies from FM!! The residents and Roy were most upset that FM's list of requirements for Roy's Forever Home was incomplete. After reading through it, they all informed me that for a Forever Home to be considered, that Home must have PEANUT BUTTER which is liberally dispensed on a daily basis. So, consider yourself warned!!

Roy completed his second round of Obedience I this past week. After the proficiency exercises, the instructor announced which dog had taken first place and received a blue ribbon and then said, "And second place goes to Roy, even though he can't sit or lie down." So, once again, Roy was "in the money." (Very low bar.) Very funny.

When we arrived home from our last Obedience session and let everyone loose in the back yard, Zozo (12-108) was so overjoyed to see Roy that she wouldn't leave him alone. (We do call Zozo "Flirty Myrty" because she has always been a real "girly girl.") This was Zozo at her best. She just kept nuzzling and kissing Roy. So fun to watch!

We celebrated Roy's Obedience accomplishments with doggie ice cream that night after dinner.

By way of background, when Roy arrived here, he ate in his kennel in the bedroom with the door closed. FM gradually started moving the dish further and further out of the kennel until Roy was eating in the bedroom itself. The next step was to open the bedroom door at meal time. Until last week, that was as far as we had progressed. But look at the picture: Roy is eating his ice cream in the kitchen along with the rest of the guys. He really wanted that ice cream! Another step forward!

Lastly, we loved the time we recently spent at the Shakopee Meet and Greet. Thanks for stopping by to see Roy and the other guys there. Roy was at his photogenic best.

Shakopee Event Manager Carolyn said that we should entitle this last picture "And I am just going to stay here, cross my legs and patiently wait until my forever family gets here!"

Saturday, January 31, 2015

We've really enjoyed reading about Roy's progress! Happy holidays! Zach and Kelly Olsen   We've really enjoyed reading about Roy's progress! Happy holidays! Zach and Kelly Olsen

 BYRON,LARRY,BRODY AND BETSY BRUHN Merry Christmas from: Byron, Larry, Brody and Betsy Bruhn

Keep up the awesome progress! May 2015 bring you your forever family!   Keep up the awesome progress! May 2015 bring you your forever family! From Keith (Whitney's grandpa)

Friday, January 23, 2015

A quick note to Zach and Kelly: So glad you stopped by to see Roy! Terrific to have a chance to meet you!

Roy is welcoming in the new year by demonstrating an increase in confidence and comfort when confronting unfamiliar situations. At the recent Edina Meet and Greet, we started the afternoon in "our" quiet corner with Roy lying on his blanket. After about half an hour, Roy sat up and began to take an active interest in his surroundings.

Shortly thereafter, Roy's special friend, Nicole 13-351, and her forever mom came to visit and say Hello. It's almost uncanny watching Roy and Nicole together. They draw comfort from one another and bolster each other's courage. With Nicole there, Roy got up, stepped out of his corner and stood next to Nicole and remained by her side throughout her visit.

Later in the afternoon, as the crowd thinned out, Roy - still standing - felt comfortable moving into the open portion of the meeting room. F, a RAGOM volunteer, provided hugs and pats and encouragement. Roy was watchful, but fairly relaxed. How about that for courage and determination. Another step along the path.


(*Thanks to Cindy G for usual outstanding pictures!)

We will be at the Shakopee Meet and Greet this weekend. Our mantra all week has been "No more corners!" Hope to see you there.

Roy's recent growth bolsters FM's conclusion that Roy is ready for his next big step - going to his forever home. Roy is a special love and will need the following:

  1. A fenced yard. A fence is for Roy's protection and safety. If he got loose, FM is certain he would panic, bolt and that we could catch him only with great difficulty, if at all.
  2. Another dog or dogs. Roy needs another dog to pattern himself after as he continues to learn "normal" behaviors.
  3. Roy would do best in a FM-only home or a home with adults only. A home with older children who are dog-savvy is a possibility. Concerning children, FM's reasoning is that Roy still startles very easily and, when afraid, will bolt. Quick movements or actions are scary to him. Roy's world now is relatively slow-paced without a lot of noise. He prefers consistency and thrives in a predictable environment.
  4. Roy needs lots of love, attention and a forever home that will have zero expectations of him... thus being able to joyfully celebrate each step that he makes along his path.
  5. Roy needs a forever home which will structure Roy's world so that he continues to be challenged to work through his fear of all that is new and unknown, so that he can become all he can be.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Our heartfelt thanks to first - Byron, Larry, Brody and Betsy Bruhn - and second - Keith (beautiful Whitney's grandpa) for your Christmas wishes to sweet Roy in this holiday season. You are very generous and we appreciate it.

Our holidays were wonderful. One question: what does it say about us when the dogs/cats get more presents than the people! The dogs got treats, new stuffies (with squeakers that work!), bones, a new collar, and a cat toy that resident Cubbie immediately claimed as his own! Unfortunately, the pictures were sub par this year. FM auditioned Roy as Mr. Snowflake and Mr. Christmas Tree and Mr. Moose - but look at that face. He didn't like any of his decorations. Maybe next year.

FM made an appointment to have up-to-date pictures taken of this beautiful Golden family during the week before Christmas. First, everyone had baths. The residents bathed in the tub - and used up every drop of hot water in the house. Roy got special treatment. He went to Bubbly Paws for "the works": shampoo, blow dry, grooming and brushing. When we arrived at the salon, Roy's head was down. His tail disappeared and he was drooling slightly. Stressed! But when FM returned to pick him up an hour and a half later, it was obvious that the staff had been gentle and kind with him. He was calm and composed. His head was up and tail fully visible. He was almost relaxed. On top of that, he looked beautiful and smelled delicious!

Picture day found Roy predictably anxious when we arrived at the photography studio. Everything and everyone was unfamiliar. The emphasis during our hour-long appointment - and we were helped immeasurably by a dog-savvy photographer - was on getting relaxed and candid shots of the guys. (No problem for most Goldens!) Initially, however, Roy sat on a couch in the corner of the room - and just watched everything. About halfway through the appointment, however, his curiosity about what was going on took over. With encouragement, he started to participate in the process - accepting the lighting changes, shifting of screens and the constant clicking of the camera shutter close by without a great deal of angst. (Post script: We just viewed the proofs yesterday. The results were fabulous for all four guys. Delighted!)

The real point of this story, however, is not that the pictures were wonderful. RATHER, Roy came in to RAGOM's care just a year ago - on December 29, 2013. During his first 6 months with RAGOM, Roy made the difficult transition from an institutional environment - all he had ever known - into a home. His first foster family provided him with untold amounts of love and care which provided a broad base and springboard for his continuing development. For the last 6 months, FM has concentrated on helping Roy to venture beyond the safety of his home into the big world beyond. Think of it this way: almost every experience he has encountered in the last 6 months has been new and unfamiliar, thus scary and anxiety-producing, for Roy. We started with a simple walk around the block. We have progressed to baths at Bubbly Paws and pictures in a photography studio! Hooray for Roy! He is still uncomfortable with strange situations, but he moves through his fear and discomfort and adapts to new surroundings and people so much more quickly now than 6 months ago. FM trusts that this process will continue to accelerate as Roy's curiosity and interest in what is going on around him increases. Roy is our miracle and we recognize the courage it takes for him to move into our world. He has come so far in one year and we are excited to see what 2015 brings.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

A big thank you to Zach and Kelly for your thoughtfulness in sending Roy a Christmas card icon. We appreciate your generosity and would love to meet you at an upcoming Meet and Greet if you are in the Twin Cities area.

Another big thank you goes to everyone who stopped by to say "Hello" to Roy at the recent Edina Meet and Greet. Knowing how popular this site is, we arrived at Chuck and Don's a bit early to stake out a not-so-busy corner with our blanket. For most of the visit, Roy lay quietly. He was watchful, but made little eye contact with you as you stopped by to see him. But each of you treated him with such care and kindness, complete with gentle pats and soft words that FM saw the results of this loving attention with Roy by the end of the afternoon. Not too long before we left, Roy sat up on his blanket. He started to look around at his surroundings, quite unafraid and really trying to figure out what was going on with all the people and dogs. He obviously felt more confident. WOW!!! FM was amazed. Thank you. Thank you.

 

Roy continues to show signs that he is becoming more comfortable in his world here at home too. Although his kennel and his bed in the kitchen are still his go-to places, he is comfortable on a bed in the living room now also. He is sitting up more often and for longer periods of time. In fact, FM was sitting at the kitchen table having a few crackers with peanut butter this week. As previously mentioned, peanut butter is a favorite with all of the dogs (and Duddie, one of the cats)! Everyone perks up when the lid is twisted off the jar. Well, Roy is now no exception to that statement. All of a sudden, as I sat there, I realized that Roy was sitting up - about a foot and a half away - and was looking directly at me. He wanted some peanut butter too! And this sweet boy got some - a heaping tablespoonful. Another step forward: he initiated the interaction and told me what he wanted.

When Roy arrived here in July, he was on two anti-anxiety medications. This past fall, with Dr. C's agreement, we weaned him off one of those meds, Alprazolam. He remained on an average (based on his weight) dosage of Fluoxetine. We have now reduced the dosage of Fluoxetine - just slightly - and he seems to be tolerating this with no adverse effects. In a few weeks, we'll see if he tolerates another small reduction. Whether he is ready is up to Roy. We'll take our direction from him.

And so, sweet beautiful Roy continues to emerge from his "old" world of fear. Ever so surely - he is entering our world of hope and love. Roy is our miracle and we are grateful every day that we are to be able to witness and celebrate his journey. He spends a quiet moment cuddling with Sidney the cat below.

Monday, December 1, 2014

FM recently returned from a week of hiking in AZ. Absolutely terrific! FM's daughter - M - shouldered all the doggie responsibilities during my vacation. FM admits to mixed feelings about the trip, wondering how Roy would adjust. As it turned out, he did just fine.

M observed that Roy was more timid and retiring than usual for the first few days of her stay at the house. He adjusted fairly well after that. Notable occurrences during the week were:

  1. Happiest moment: On Day 3 and thereafter, Roy went outside and then returned to the back door with the 3 residents right away to come inside. (For the first few days, M had to spend about 10 minutes coaxing/bribing him to come back in. And it was cold!)
  2. Most surprising moment: M used the oven on Day 4. When the smoke alarm went off, M said that she had to peel both Roy and Zozo (12-108) off the kitchen ceiling. The rest of the evening was uneventful, but included much nervous eye rolling by both dogs.
  3. Most touching moment: In the morning on Day 4, Roy came out of his kennel - tail wagging - and came over to kiss M's hand.

There were - as expected - some small setbacks. M reported that Roy bolted several times in situations where he had not done so previously. FM also noted the bolting when she came home, but Roy was back to his pre-vacation ways within a week. So, kudos to Roy for adjusting to his new situation. M's last entry in her doggie notes was "Everyone says how excited they are that you are coming home!" FM felt the same way. Happy reunion!

There's no doubt that winter has arrived. We are fortunate to live down the street from a golf course that opens its gates to area residents in the winter: dog walkers, cross country skiers, hikers, etc. The course is fully fenced so the residents can run off-leash in a safe environment. For safety, FM keeps Roy on his double leash. But that doesn't seem to diminish his enjoyment during our hikes as he steps out with a brisk pace and head held high. On one walk, the snow had formed a hard crust and, as we were going down an incline, Roy slid for about 5 ft. before he broke through the crust. The expression on his face was priceless. We are very fortunate to have our own private dog park so close by!

Hope everyone had a golden Thanksgiving. FM had a lot of assistance getting dinner ready. In addition to the 3 residents and Roy, Chip (14-249) has joined us temporarily for several weeks so we had many doggie feet "helping" with the preparations and much to be thankful for!

Thursday, November 6, 2014

First and most important, a BIG thank you to Zach and Kelly O for sponsoring Roy. Your kindness and generousity is much appreciated. It is people like you who enable RAGOM to provide the care that so many of our dogs require. You are an integral and vitally important part of our effort. Thank you.

Roy continues to be our social butterfly as he gets out and about. Unfortunately, right after I so happily stated that he was not vomiting in the car as we go to our various engagements, he started in again. So, we're now using Dramamine and it works like a charm. Thank goodness!

On October 26th, Dylan (13-379), a pup from Roy and Nicole's (13-351) last litter at the puppy mill, hosted a one-year birthday party for his 7 littermates, mom, dad, and assorted other dogs and families. What fun! A beautiful day and a beautiful celebration in a large fenced back yard. The tunnel was a favorite for the pups and kids. Amazing how many could fit in at one time - it reminded me of the clowns cramming into a small car at the circus and then all tumbling out!

Roy and FM wrapped up our first Obedience I training session on Wednesday morning. This last class was a test of all the commands we have been taught in the 10-week period. Despite no "sit" and/or "down" (lack of trust) - except when he chooses to do so - Roy has "heel" and all the exercises that we do in tandem down pat. FM gave this some thought and concluded that with this behavior, Roy is really saying, "You're the only one I know here and maybe you will keep me safe in these unfamiliar surroundings with all the strange people/dogs. So, I'm sticking close to you!" And, bless him, he does. Well, the unexpected outcome yesterday was that despite his "shortcomings," Roy came home with a blue ribbon. He scored top in his class! Never mind that the bar was low - we celebrated with doggy ice cream for everyone. We proudly hung his blue ribbon on his kennel! And we start our second Obedience I session next week.

 

FM had a contractor ("IW") here at the house in the kitchen for about 3 hours this past week. Roy retreated to his kennel in the bedroom when IW arrived and remained there for almost 2 hours. Roy then approached us and stood in the hallway. His dilemma was clear: he wanted to join us all in the kitchen, but was afraid to pass directly by IW to get to his safe-place bed. FM asked IW to move out of Roy's path and after some encouragement, Roy did join us and laid down. How about that! He didn't want to be by himself. What a brave boy.

Lastly, knowing that Roy is happier and more relaxed when he wakes up in the morning than at any other time during the day, FM is trying to extend that morning feel-good time as long as possible. Well, FM got a big reward today. As he does every morning now, Roy came out of his kennel - wagging his tail - and came over to the bed for some pats and happy talk. But - Newsflash! - he then gave my hand several kisses. A first! FM admits to a few tears!

And so, ever so slowly, Roy continues to emerge from his puppy mill background into a happy world of tail wags, smiles, kisses and love. FM sees him snuggling with the residents more and more often these days. He even got a face wash from Bear (10-277) several days ago which he endured with perfect equanimity! Welcome to our world, Roy!!

 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Busy! Busy! Busy! That's our Roy. He's getting out and about these days!

We walked down the hill to watch and walk along with the Twin Cities marathoners a week ago: great opportunity to get Roy into unfamiliar surroundings: crowds of people, noise, other dogs, cyclists and the many runners. Roy handled it all with remarkable aplomb: only rolled his eyes several times and we only lost sight of his tail once - when we passed a live band with a very enthusiastic drummer! What a guy!

Gradually, over the last month, FM has noticed several more changes in Roy's behavior:

  1. When it's time for walks, he comes every time now when I call him. Once we're outside, where initially he seemed to glance around at his surroundings almost furtively, he now watches/records everything quite openly and intently.
  2. For the longest time, Roy laid so flat on his "safe place" bed in the kitchen that I thought he was trying to sink into the bed/floor and become invisible. FM had to get down on her hands and knees to give him love. He's much more relaxed now and no longer tries to be the disappearing dog!
  3. When I come home, he either greets me with some tail wags in the hall or, if it's been a quick trip, I find him sitting up on his bed in anticipation. He knows that he is the first guy who gets the hugs and kisses; he's expecting them and he's OK with them. By the way, two or three tail wags are now standard events each day. Wow!
  4. We've placed another dog bed in the living room and are spending more time there - broadening Roy's horizons, if you will.
  5. Obedience is going well. He sat for the first time during class last week. No, it wasn't in response to a "sit" command. It was because he got tired of standing! But that's good news. FM thinks he has been standing throughout the classes so that he could flee if something was too threatening for him. He finally relaxed enough to sit this last week.
  6. We visited the vet for routine shots this past week. Where initially he had huddled in the corner of the exam room, trembling and not making any eye contact, Roy now jumped up on the bench, laid down, crossed one paw over the other, ears up and watched for Dr. C. until she came into the room. Dr. C. has been seeing Roy since July. She noticed the change immediately and commented on his alertness, amount of eye contact, and his interest - not fear - in his surroundings. She termed it "significant progress." Hooray for Roy.

Thank you again to everyone for their good thoughts and wishes for Roy. FM thinks of it as Roy carrying a crushing load from his puppy mill experience, like a sack of rocks that weighs him down and colors his perception of the world. In this last month, it's as if Roy has thrown off several of those rocks. Celebrate with me every step Roy makes toward becoming joyous and free, as Goldens are meant to be!

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

First and most important, a big thank you to Jennifer, Jackie, Paul, Kara, and Chuck for your thoughtfulness in purchasing a paw print for Roy at Goldzilla. It sounds, Jennifer, as if you had a similar experience with your Riley and I can appreciate the time, patience, and love it took for him to trust you. Roy is also a special boy - he just steals your heart - and I celebrate every step forward that he makes. Thank you all for your generosity in helping RAGOM continue its good work!

And Roy does just keep growing and developing. Take walks, for example. Everyone wants to go on every walk! But FM only has so many hands and leashes, so we go on our walks in shifts. When it is resident Cubbie's and Roy's turn, I'll call Roy to come to the front door to be leashed - and he does! He has started to really enjoy himself as we explore. He still likes to be about a 1/2 step behind me, but FM attributes that to caution. He has, however, picked up his pace to a definite - almost brisk - walk. His head is higher. We vary our routes and often walk by the River so that we see other people and dogs. We're going between 1 1/2 and 2 miles a day. This is a different boy than the one that accompanied me on our first walk almost 3 months ago!

FM is trying to reinforce those aspects of the obedience training that Roy is ready to handle. He walks very nicely and follows my lead on varying our pace (fast and slow) and going in circles (to the right and to the left). "Sit" and "down" require far too much trust at this time, so we're working on "come." Per the instructor, FM only uses the command when she's certain that Roy will be successful. For example, after Roy has been out in the backyard, he always returns to the back door and is the first one back into the house. So, FM is now saying "come" to coincide with his return and reentry. Similarly, when FM takes Roy's meals to the bedroom, he has started to walk along with me of his own accord. Again, FM has started to say "come" as we leave the kitchen. Most of all, Roy has relaxed a lot in the training classroom and watches what is going on around him quite closely. Progress for our boy!

Another area that Roy has worked on diligently in the last few months has been car rides. When FM picked up Roy from boarding initially, he jumped right into the car. Was FM happy or what! Well, not so fast. What FM took for comfort with the car was probably Roy saying "I'm more afraid of being left behind than I am of getting in the car with you!" About two weeks later, when I wanted to take Roy in the car again, he made it clear that FM could go by herself. So we embarked on a desensitization program. We started by sitting by the car for 15-20 minutes, moving closer and closer to the car as the days went by. We finally got in the car and sat there. We kept doing that until Roy stopped shaking, rolling his eyes, and panting. Finally, we started going for short rides. These rides brought on several bouts of nervous vomiting, so FM quickly learned to schedule our excursions when Roy had an empty stomach! Fast forward to now: Roy still has some discomfort getting in and out of the car, but he rides very nicely now. He looks out the windows for a bit and then lies down for a snooze. No more eye rolling, panting, or other nervous behavior. As the picture below shows, he's less than wildly enthusiastic about car rides, but this good boy has become a very pleasant traveling companion.

Friday, September 19, 2014

First and most important, Roy sends his thanks to Shiloh for the summer decal. Roy met Shiloh briefly at a Meet and Greet and whispered to me that she is just a cutie-patootie. And she is! Thanks too to Shiloh's FM and FD. You're the best!!!

It's been a busy busy 10 days for sweet Roy! On September 7th, Roy, resident Cubbie and I walked down by the river in the morning and saw many of the bikers as they were close to finishing the St. Paul Bike Classic. A beautiful day for a ride, a walk, and just about anything else you wanted to do!

The following Friday, Roy went to the vet to get a much-needed teeth cleaning and, unexpectedly, also had an extraction. Otherwise, the visit was uneventful and we celebrated Roy's pearly whites Friday evening. All was well until Saturday morning when Roy developed diarrhea and, in the afternoon, started to vomit. Poor guy! Early Sunday morning, FM took Roy to the vet who gave him fluids, meds, and an injection for the diarrhea. The upshot was that while everyone else in the family made their annual Goldzilla pilgrimage, Roy stayed home with the cats and rested. My apologies to the people who stopped by the Foster Tent looking for Roy that he did not attend. We will be going to some Meet and Greets soon, so hopefully you can meet him then. (I have found that his problem may well have been a reaction to the anesthesia. It was certainly more than we bargained for!)

More news is that FM has enrolled Roy in Obedience I classes. Our objective is not obedience as much as continued socialization. Roy attended orientation with me the first week. Normally for the owners only, Roy got "special permission" to attend so that he could see the training facility: a large Quonset hut-type structure with several training rings and experience the busy atmosphere of owners and dogs coming and going for their respective classes. He was concerned and remained apprehensive through his second class. Roy is one of twelve dogs in the class. His tail tells the tale of class 2:

Roy was substantially more relaxed in the third class which we attended several days ago. The training ring is large enough for us to keep a comfortable distance away from the other dogs/owners. By the end of the class, Roy had stopped being hypervigilant as to who was how close to him. Progress - and the tail emerged from between his legs:

FM wants to expose Roy to a different environment with this class, broaden his horizons, if you will. At this time, the usual commands learned by dogs in an Obedience I class - such as "sit" and "down" are beyond Roy. It's not a question of smarts. I think he's highly intelligent. Rather, he has a fear-filled view of the world. Over time and with continued exposure, if we can demonstrate to him that the world holds only good things and kind people - if we can reach him and his fear level decreases - then we will think about training. For now, FM is delighted to be able to see Roy's tail as we walk around the ring and to note that he is not rolling his eyes and shying away when someone passes us. For us, this is huge progress. I am in awe of this guy's heart and courage. Keep sending your good thoughts to Roy!

Thursday, September 4, 2014

It is so exciting to see the progress that Roy continues to make as he learns what its like to live the Golden Life. Here are several examples:

  1. Several weeks ago, as previously noted, FM was delighted to see Roy coming out of his kennel in the morning - wagging his tail - to join the pack as they woke up and got ready for the day. Well, Roy is now experimenting with the idea of becoming my alarm clock. Every couple of days, Roy will get up about 1/2 hour before our normal wake-up time, come out of his kennel - wagging his tail - and look to see if he can garner any it's-time-to-get-up support from the residents. No takers and FM does her best not to laugh. A disappointed Roy goes back into his kennel. But boy, is he happy when it is finally time to get up!

    In fact, when we do all wake up, Roy is now coming over to the side of the bed to get his share of pats and "good morning" from FM. He's asking for the love. Wow!

  2. FM also previously noted that when she came home from errands, Roy would get up from his bed in the kitchen and give me a few welcoming tail wags. Roy is now taking this behavior one step further: he comes out into the hallway - tail wagging - for a quick "hello" before going back to the kitchen.
  3. When Roy first arrived in our home, he flatly refused to take any treats from my hand. (He still won't take the regular dog biscuits unless they are laid down by him.) Finally, after about a month, however, Roy started to take high-value treats - chicken, deli turkey, Natural Balance dog roll - from my hand. We then tried to add peanut butter to our repertoire of high-value treats. Initially, after a few preliminary sniffs, Roy refused the dollop of peanut butter proffered on a kitchen spatula. When he wouldn't take it, FM smeared it on his paw. Fast forward to today: Roy gently licks peanut butter from my finger. And he obviously considers it a real bonanza when he gets the empty jar to work on:

  4. Originally, when it was time for walks, FM would take the leashes into the kitchen and get Roy ready for his daily exploration of the neighborhood. Not so any more. Now when it's time to go out, Roy promptly comes to the front door to be leashed - sometimes even before I call him.

Each of these seemingly small steps is momentous. Ever so slowly, Roy is setting aside a lifetime of puppy mill experiences and, at the same time, replacing them with new behaviors that, if he had been well socialized as a puppy, we would expect as a matter of course. The characteristic that I observe in Roy that gives me so much optimism for his continuing growth and development is the same one I saw in resident puppy mill girl, Zozo (12-108): Roy is very curious. It is this inquisitiveness, coupled with the fact that he intently observes everything that is going on around him, that I believe fuels his courage to keep making these baby steps forward.

Roy will be at the foster tent at Goldzilla from 10:30 - 11:30 on September 14th. Come and say hello. He will be apprehensive, but a few gentle pats will help him to further grow and develop. You'll be able to find us easily. This handsome guy will be surrounded by the residents for moral support - so look for the crowd of us! In case you've forgotten, here's what he looks like!

A final note: On the 14th, there will be a large board (near the baseball backstop) with the pictures of all available dogs. You can help by purchasing a foster paw print sticker at the merchandising tent (available in increments of $10, $25, $50, and $100). You will then place the paw print sticker next to the picture of the dog you'd like to support. You will also have the opportunity to write a note to the dog you select - which will be posted on his/her page after the event. Whether you select Roy or one of the other deserving fosters, thank you for your generosity.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Roy had an appointment with the vet this past week. His visit prompted FM to construct a one-question multiple choice quiz:

After checking in at the vet's office, FM sat down on a bench in the waiting room. Roy
(a) retreated under the bench;
(b) sat by FM's feet; or
(c) jumped up on the bench and sat next to FM.

After reading Roy's "story" to this point, which option would you choose? The correct answer is (c) - he hopped up to sit with me! FM was so surprised! So, FM gave him some hugs and pats; the office staff got a few chuckles; and the handsome redhead and I waited quietly for our appointment. Never would have guessed it!

The visit itself was for several miscellaneous items. We reviewed Roy's meds with an eye toward reducing the dosage in the fall. We discussed whether his teeth need to be cleaned. And FM was not certain whether Roy had an ear infection. Nothing major - all is well with this beautiful boy.

Most of Roy's daily walks have been on our quieter neighborhood streets. This past weekend, however, the biking portion of a Minneapolis/St. Paul triathlon was close to us - on East River Road, by the Mississippi. So, Roy, resident Cubbie, and FM upped their game and walked down to see the race. FM realized again that so many experiences that are commonplace to us are completely unfamiliar to Roy: bicycles and bikers, runners (lots of runners as Twin Cities Marathon is just around the corner), noisemakers used by race supporters, etc. Roy watched everything and everyone very closely. He only became disconcerted once - when several runners overtook us too quickly and passed by us too closely for Roy's comfort. Finally, our walk was notable because it's the first time he's gone 2 miles. What a champ!

Several miscellaneous observations:

  • Roy's eye contact has improved by leaps and bounds. Initially, when he arrived, he made no eye contact with me whatsoever - and I mirrored his behavior so that he would not feel threatened. However, he has shown substantial improvement, which FM believes will continue.
  • FM came home from working out this week and, as I came into the kitchen, Roy got up from his bed and came over to greet me along with the rest of the guys. Another first!
  • More and more often, FM sees that Roy has "company" on "his" dog bed (in this case, resident Cubbie - Roy's walking buddy) which is positive for everyone!

Have a wonderful week. Looking forward to the fall; it looks to be a busy one for Roy. More details soon. One of the most fun events we will all attend (how could we leave anyone at home?!) is Goldzilla and WE CAN'T WAIT!! Put it on your calendar - September 14th. Make sure to drop by and see Roy. He will be very shy with you, but you will be helping him to grow and become more confident by visiting with us. We hope to see you there!!

Friday, August 15, 2014

The date - Tuesday, August 12, 2014 - has been circled, starred, asterisked, exclamation pointed, and whatever else FM does when there's a date to remember and celebrate in our home. Roy made a giant step forward on Tuesday! After breakfast in the morning, the guys gathered around for some love. This involves quite a bit of jostling of one another and jockeying for position because (how did this happen!) FM only has two hands and everyone wants the pats. All of a sudden, FM realized that there was an extra Golden Retriever in the mix. It was Roy! Entirely of his own volition and despite an aversion to being hemmed in by the guys, he waded into the group to get his share of hugs and kisses from FM. FM didn't call, cajole, or offer bribes/treats to him. Until Tuesday, FM has always been the one doing the approaching. Most times - attribute this to his background - Roy acts as if he tolerates the pats, but doesn't really welcome the attention. Not so on Tuesday. For the first time, he joined the pack because he wanted to. He sought out the love. What wonderful progress for this special guy.

Roy continues to be super busy. He's working very hard at this business of socialization. He attended another playdate - with about 8 people and 9 dogs. A lot of activity for a shy guy like Roy. Thankfully, Whitney (13-317) and Nicole (13-351) were there and gave him some special attention. Also in attendance were two of the youngsters from Roy's last litter: Dylan (13-379) and Chester (13-378). Energy - energy - energy from those 8-month-olds! It was a family reunion!

Last Saturday found Roy at the Plymouth Meet and Greet - where he met head-on his reluctance to be with strange people in unfamiliar surroundings. Everyone was understanding and he did just fine. Admittedly, he was very glad to get home and snooze the rest of the day!

Thought you'd enjoy a few pictures of Roy. He's appropriating/chewing bones and, in this case, a Kong with greater frequency now. He also recently de-eared a stuffie - with great enthusiasm and intensity.

Resident Bear (12-108) joined Roy on "his" dog bed one evening and FM was fortunate enough to capture the first time that Roy has initiated contact/a snuggle with one of the guys. Another baby step forward.

Lastly, FM thought you'd enjoy seeing more positive body language from Roy - head up, shoulders back. It may be a long journey, but Roy has started down the path toward becoming all that he can be.

Send sweet Roy your good thoughts and wishes as he continues to grow and develop.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Roy has been so busy since he arrived here. He keeps slowly but steadily growing and becoming more comfortable.

We recently went on a doggie playdate. There were 7 dogs, 4 owners/fosters and a lovely big fenced backyard. When we arrived, FM let Roy off his lead so that he could mix and mingle and enjoy himself. Roy, however, was quite uncertain about the unfamiliar surroundings, people, and dogs. He circled the yard a number of times - out by the fence line and then, gradually, came a bit closer. And that's when the magic began. Roy discovered that the friend he had made at the Edina Meet and Greet - Whitney (13-317), also a puppy mill survivor, was at the playdate. In addition, Nicole (13-351) was there. Nicole and Roy were from the same puppy mill and Nicole had at least one litter of Roy's puppies. The four pictures below (courtesy of Cindy G.) tell the whole story. Both girls were extremely solicitous of and supportive with Roy. It was as if they understood that he was not comfortable in these new and strange surroundings. They gathered around him with love and support, obviously trying to bolster his confidence. Nicole even accompanied Roy on several slow laps around the yard. I have never seen anything like it. It was just heartwarming.

To give you an example of how Roy is progressing as he becomes more comfortable here, FM has kept track of some of the highlights of Roy learning that Golden tails are meant to wag! As mentioned previously, Roy sleeps in his kennel (with the door open) in my bedroom at night:

7/11: FM gets a slight - almost imperceptible - wave of Roy's tail as he comes out of his crate in the morning. This could hardly be called a "wag."

7/13: Roy joins the crowd of residents around the bed as they try to persuade FM that it is time to "Rise and Shine" and think about all the fun things we can do in this new day. (The look on Roy's face is "What am I doing here?"!)

7/19: Roy gives a few "real" wags of his tail. It really works!

7/28 and ongoing: Roy comes out of his kennel wagging his tail! Look at that tail in the pictures - up and happy! His head is held high! He looks just like everyone else! Hooray for Roy!

 

When Roy joins the morning melee, he is just happy. It's as if he doesn't remember his mill experience. Unfortunately, his mind soon re-imposes those experiences on his consciousness and, after a short time, he again becomes a cautious shy guy. But FM treasures these moments when Roy is joyful and free. The real Roy peeks out - and gives us a glimpse of what is possible for this sweet boy.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Roy is gradually settling in to his new routine. When he arrived, so many things were unfamiliar and, hence, scary to Roy that he would bolt with some frequency. For example, he became fearful when he was surrounded by the residents and could not see a clear path to one of his safe spots. This situation has largely resolved itself as Roy has become accustomed to and comfortable with the residents. When he gets jostled and hemmed in by the guys now, I can almost see him take a deep breath and just go with it - knowing that he'll eventually get to his safe place. An example of an ongoing anxiety-producing situation for Roy is going outside from the kitchen. This involves two doors at a 90-degree angle within a small space, plus the residents who love to go out and crowd around FM before the doors are even opened. After some trial and error, we've worked out a "last out - first in" system. Roy waits until the guys are out before he cautiously crosses through those scary doorways at his own pace. Returning, the guys wait (as in "WAIT!!") until Roy slowly navigates the pesky doorways/right angle turn to get back inside. FM's frame of reference for the challenge a doorway can pose for a puppy mill rescue is beautiful resident Zozo (12-108 - from the MO mill) who still rolls her eyes as she passes through one particular doorway in the house. Roy is doing just fine!

Roy attended his first Meet and Greet at Chuck and Don's in Edina this past Sunday. He approached the car ride and event with great trepidation. However, thanks to the understanding RAGOM folks and visitors who joined us at the Meet and Greet, he coped wonderfully. He slowly relaxed, largely due to all the other dogs nearby and the kind words and gentle hands that helped ease his anxiousness. In fact, one of Roy's sons, Dylan 13-379 - came out to the event to say hi.


Roy (right) and his son, Dylan (front left)

Perhaps the most heartwarming moment of the event was when a lovely little Golden girl - Whitney 13-317 - who came to the event just to say hello to everyone (she has found her Forever Home) recognized a fellow puppy mill survivor in Roy. She approached and stayed close to Roy. It was clear to all of us that they drew comfort from one another in these unfamiliar and busy surroundings.

Thought you'd enjoy a few more pictures of this beautiful boy (even though he's squinting in the bright sun). The bone picture was taken within the last week and records the first time that Roy showed any interest in bones/stuffies since he's been here!

A final thought: what I have the privilege of seeing with Roy is a guy who, despite being unaccustomed to and therefore afraid of so many things and situations, is slowly putting one foot in front of the other and meeting head-on the numerous new experiences and challenges confronting him. It's not always "pretty" and it's not always "graceful." What it is is unbelievably courageous. Send sweet Roy your good thoughts.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Sweet Roy is settling into his new home and routine.

On his second or third day here, FM introduced daily walks into Roy's routine. The first walk was short - around the block - and was memorable only because it was a walk in name only! Roy walks very easily on a leash and does not pull at all. But, on that first day, he moved so slowly that, at best, I could call our pace a meander and he held his head very low. He made little eye contact with his surroundings and his tail hung straight down. Interestingly, Roy's tail is a barometer of his feelings. When FM first saw him, it was between his legs. After a day or so, the tail just hung straight down - unless something spooked Roy, and then it was back between his legs. The first time FM saw some curl and life in his tail was on the 3rd or 4th day of our walks. Along with some life in his tail, Roy is holding his head higher and his pace has increased to a definite stroll. He is showing some interest in his surroundings. We are now walking a mile each day and are accompanied by resident Cubbie, who loves our excursions. The picture below shows the most confident posture and body language that FM has seen in Roy since his arrival.

Welcoming Roy into our world and starting on daily walks prompted a bit of research. The research confirmed that dogs, like people, experience increased levels of endorphins after exercise, endorphins being chemicals in the brain that produce feelings of happiness and well-being. At our current pace, FM doubts that Roy's brain is producing many yet, but there are other benefits that are particularly helpful to a dog with Roy's background: it provides one more piece of structure and routine in his world; it tires him out; and it helps to ease his anxieties. So, we will continue with our program and gradually extend the time spent on our walks...and produce endorphins!

Meal time in our household is a well-choreographed routine with which the residents are all familiar. And all are alert to any deviations from our established pattern. Accordingly, FM prepares Roy's meals after everyone else is eating. This allows him to travel from his safe spot in the kitchen into the bedroom without having the resident guys get in his way. The first few days, FM called Roy to come and kennel up for his meals. He now comes into the bedroom of his own accord. (For sure, he is a smart one. He is processing everything he sees and all his new experiences!) FM then shuts the bedroom door so that Roy can eat in peace. FM sits on the floor while Roy eats. Unsolicited, Roy now routinely walks over to me after he finishes eating and lies down. He expects and allows me to pat and kiss him with no objection. Roy's after-meal selfie is below.

Roy is not only slightly more comfortable with me in his new surroundings, but also with the resident dogs. He does not seek out contact with the residents, but, as he has with FM, he allows the guys to come over and lie next to him in his safe place. As the residents love to cuddle and snuggle, FM is delighted by these initial steps toward establishing rapport with Roy and including him in the pack.

Please send your good thoughts to this dear boy as he continues on his journey to happiness and joy and the Golden Life.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

There have been major changes in Roy's life since his last update. Inexplicably, after slow but steady progress in his original foster home, Roy became increasingly scared around FD. (Fear of men is a common characteristic among puppy mill rescues.) So, FM and FD made the hard decision that Roy might be better in a FM-only home. Very tough on everyone and made even more difficult for our sweet Roy because he had to spend the interim two weeks in boarding.

FM 2 picked him up from boarding last Thursday, July 3rd. FM saw a beautiful medium-sized red Golden Retriever. But it was his body language that spoke the loudest: he stayed close to the boarding employee who brought him out to me as if for protection. His head and whole body were in a semi crouch and he made no eye contact. In other words, he was scared and apprehensive about another change in his world and a new unknown person that he had to go with - to an unknown destination.

Roy traveled quietly to his new home, tethered in the backseat of FM's car. He sniffed FM's hand several times before arriving home. Introductions to the resident dogs went smoothly, but despite their joyous welcome to one more guy joining the crowd, Roy ignored them. FM brought Roy home not knowing his attitude toward cats - and there are two in residence. So, the first order of business was to cat test Roy. However, Roy was so scared that I don't think he even saw the cats! The good news is that the cat testing was achieved wholly spontaneously the following morning. Dudley, the resident Maine Coon cat, walked up to a water dish placed near Roy. Dudley is an alert, cautious guy around strange dogs, but he obviously picked up no danger signs from Roy. He proceeded to have a long drink and then walked away. Although Roy looked at Dudley, he didn't move at all, but stayed in a relaxed position. Hooray for Roy! He passed his test!

Roy has found two "safe" spots in the house. The first is his crate, placed in my bedroom, where he sleeps at night and eats his meals. Roy chose his second spot almost as soon as he walked into the house: on a comfy dog bed under the kitchen table. He spends most of his time there. FM is encouraged by this because we all spend the large majority of our time in the kitchen area. So, although Roy continues to be an observer and have only limited interaction with the residents and me (and I need to initiate the interaction), he has a ringside seat to what goes on in our world and, most importantly, he is curious and watches everything closely.

After a one-day self-imposed fast, Roy regained his hearty appetite on day two here. He eats in his crate, with the bedroom door closed so that he knows he is "safe" with his food. FM keeps him company, sitting on the floor, and when he's done eating, we have some fascinating conversations. Admittedly, FM does most of the talking and the gist of it centers on what a good boy Roy is and how pretty he is, encouraging him to join me for some love and pats. Well, for the first several days, Roy watched, listened, and stayed in his kennel. The next day, he took a step forward so that he was half in and half out of the kennel. The following day, he stepped out of the kennel, but stood so that although I could reach to pat him, he wasn't close to me. The next day, he came and stood next to me and allowed me to pat him. Finally, yesterday, he came over and lay down and allowed me to give him some pats and kisses. Each of these baby steps is a HUGE step forward for Roy, illustrating quite clearly that he is slowly beginning to trust. And I know he's showing so much progress so quickly because of the foundation of love and trust established with his first FM. Thank you.

More on sweet Roy soon!